Y’all I’m coming out of left field with this post but watching Love & Hip Hop NY last night is what caused this urge to post. To be honest with you I don’t do ratchet tv, but that’s the only LHH series I watch of them all lol. What bought me to this post is a segment of it that touched a nerve with me.
The scene is of Bianca & Mariahlynn hashing out their feelings regarding their recent falling out….it was on the strength of Marialynn dropping dime on Bianca. Because of a shady hotel meetup which happened a few episodes ago between her and DJ Drewski, MariahLynn felt the need to tell his assistant slash girlfriend (lol)Skye. She & MariahLynn had become cool & quick friends.
*pic credits to vh1.com
Fast forward to how my nerve got struck… I don’t understand why people feel like you can’t be friends with someone they don’t get along with! Why not? I find it to be very selfish and controlling. I expect school kids to believe that, but adults? I thought by then we can form our own opinions based off of personal experience with that person. Not only that, but why does “loyalty” have to play a part in me not liking someone you don’t like?
Please explain to me why a side has to be chosen? I especially didn’t like that MariahLynn gave in, denouncing Skye’s friendship. Listen, if I’m cool with someone you’re not cool with that’s just life. I wouldn’t ask you to accept it, like it, have a sleepover–none of that!! However, you would not in any way dictate who I can & cannot be friends with!
So now look at that 🤔 Bianca has gotten her way, the contingency plan has been agreed upon!!! Isn’t that something!! So that’s how it works huh.. really?!
Well I just hope that anyone who’s put in this situation, is strong enough to stand behind making mature decisions. Just because your friend is cool with someone you’re not, does it mean they’re going to plot against you (I’m not saying it can’t happen). You know, there are people who do know how to make sure they stay neutral.
I know you’re probably thinking girl it ain’t that deep, it’s just “reality” tv but this is a real life situation that happens all the time! I’m speaking from experience of having been put in this situation before! I’m here to say…. Don’t feed territorial friends, if one person is controlling the friendship; that’s a dictatorship!!
I don’t know about y’all, but I want friends who’s going to tell me when I’m wrong, not enable me to be wrong & strong!!
What about your friends……..
Thanks for reading!!