Territory Takedown

Y’all I’m coming out of left field with this post but watching Love & Hip Hop NY last night is what caused this urge to post. To be honest with you I don’t do ratchet tv, but that’s the only LHH series I watch of them all lol. What bought me to this post is a segment of it that touched a nerve with me.

The scene is of Bianca & Mariahlynn hashing out their feelings regarding their recent falling out….it was on the strength of Marialynn dropping dime on Bianca. Because of a shady hotel meetup which happened a few episodes ago between her and DJ Drewski, MariahLynn felt the need to tell his assistant slash girlfriend (lol)Skye. She & MariahLynn had become cool & quick friends.

*pic credits to vh1.com

Fast forward to how my nerve got struck… I don’t understand why people feel like you can’t be friends with someone they don’t get along with! Why not? I find it to be very selfish and controlling. I expect school kids to believe that, but adults? I thought by then we can form our own opinions based off of personal experience with that person. Not only that, but why does “loyalty” have to play a part in me not liking someone you don’t like? 

Please explain to me why a side has to be chosen? I especially didn’t like that MariahLynn gave in, denouncing Skye’s friendship. Listen, if I’m cool with someone you’re not cool with that’s just life. I wouldn’t ask you to accept it, like it, have a sleepover–none of that!! However, you would not in any way dictate who I can & cannot be friends with! 

So now look at that šŸ¤” Bianca has gotten her way, the contingency plan has been agreed upon!!! Isn’t that something!! So that’s how it works huh.. really?! 
Well I just hope that anyone who’s put in this situation, is strong enough to stand behind making mature decisions. Just because your friend is cool with someone you’re not, does it mean they’re going to plot against you (I’m not saying it can’t happen). You know, there are people who do know how to make sure they stay neutral. 

I know you’re probably thinking girl it ain’t that deep, it’s just “reality” tv but this is a real life situation that happens all the time! I’m speaking from experience of having been put in this situation before! I’m here to say…. Don’t feed territorial friends, if one person is controlling the friendship; that’s a dictatorship!!

I don’t know about y’all, but I want friends who’s going to tell me when I’m wrong, not enable me to be wrong & strong!!

What about your friends……..

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Tree Tea

I decided last year that I was going to do more personal posts on my blog…… hence…… 
This has been on my mind for a while, I have so many undecided thoughts I couldn’t sit down to pinpoint how I wanted to express this. That is until @bossladyterrie sent this to me…. take from this what you may but I can certainly identify with this analogy. I wouldn’t say that we always have these types of people, but I can attest to relationships/friendships that has evolved into these categories (even currently).

“We ALWAYS have 3 types of people in our lives & a tree is the best description I have to describe it. 1.ROOTS- Those are people Who Are Always In Our Lives Rooted To Us Through The Fall,Spring,Winter & Summer No Matter What dedicated to keeping the friendship alive. 2.BRANCHES-Those are the people who hold us up as long as it’s convenient for them to hold you up. 3.LEAVES-People Who Fall Off depending on what season it is, then like clockwork, they come back around when they want to be seen. These people only hang around To Get What They Can Get And Once They Meet Their Purpose In your life they Fall Off!”

Don’t get me wrong, people’s lives change twice over and even more so as you get older, I get it! But when life calls for revisions that make your relationships/friendships happier, healthier and solid with muscle; this is what you resort to. So in the event that you do have these types in your circle, you’ll be faced with cause to make some changes that should benefit your needs mostly. Here’s what I suggest…..

  • Get to the ROOT of the relationship or friendship. What does it provide your life?
  • Don’t be afraid to BRANCH out, meet new people, make new friends if the ones you have are no longer demonstrating reciprocity.
  • LEAVE what’s proven not to be for you alone!! I’m not saying to just drop everyone like a bad habit just cause they don’t act accordingly. I’m saying that to say we tend to have a bad habit of complaining about weight we aren’t obligated to carry!!

With all that being said, basically your circle is yours to shape; you decide who stays in the loop!! There’s nothing unfair about an even exchange!!

Can you identify with that analogy on the types of people you may have in your life??

Juvia’s Place The Saharan PaletteĀ 

*pic credit from Juvia’s Place site 

Hey people,  after standing around with my arms folded and eyes rolled from looking at everyone else getting theirs in the mail; I got this in the mail yesterday.
Feast your eyes (lids) on the newest gem from Juvia’s place…. very pigmented, smooth and buttery feeling. I still recommend you use a base for application.




You can purchase this new Saharan eyeshadow palette HERE.

If you’ve been asleep for all of Juvia’s eyeshadow palette releases then let me help you catch up… here’s where you can buy all 3 palettes on the site.

Stay tuned for an ELOTD (eye look of the day).

Mani Mondays

I’ve realized the error of my ways believe it or not…. my first love of nail polish has been majorly ignored here on my blog (why hasn’t anyone told me)!! I know I should never forget where I’ve come from and from how far lol….

So let me start this thang off right! 

My Monday mani comes from the help of LA Colors Color Last “gel like” polish. They say this polish is supposed to last 10 days (chip resistant) but I have never been able to say that about any polish. This wine-vamp color is one of the many colors I like to rock in the winter (although I follow no beauty rules when it comes to what I choose to rock).

Here’s Wisdom 

You can find these in Walmart or Family Dollar for $1.98.

What’s on your nails?

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Target Dollar Spot Haul

You know, people will argue that anything sold at a cheap value can’t be good or it won’t last long. In this case I disagree…. Target “dollar spot” has been one of my favorite aisles in there. Of course it’s right in the front as you walk in, so you have no choice but to give that area your money first lol.

A friend of mine (@beedeepresents) posted her haul recently whiched featured this clipboard, I fell in love with it instantly!! I am a huge fan of pink (duh) but also anything with pink shades of roses!! So you know me, I pulled up on Target with my debit card locked and loaded.

The dollar spot has an array of cutesy items but I especially love their seasonal & holiday products like: Valentine’s Day, Easter, Summer, Halloween & etc.

Anyhoo here’s my haul.

Clipboard $5

Cute notecard $1
Pens $1 each

Notebook $3

The dollar spot is the place for great inexpensive finds. If it’s your need to decorate a certain room, decorations for holidays or just for finding little trinkets for the low, make this spot your target!!

What are your latest Target dollar spot finds?

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Victoria’s Secret annual sale haul

Y’all I haven’t bought much from the VS Pink clothing wise in a long time. I came across a few old tops I’ve had for years in a winter clothes storage bin so this annual sale came right on time. Pink happens to be my favorite color so I don’t mind walking around with it splattered on my shirt!! 

Check out the shirts they got me for….  I actually only went in for one shirt that has the leopard pattern inside the PINK lettering. I got and a few more, hey it was my birthday!!


$7 phone case

Truth be told, these shirts run big, I normally wear L or XL in women’s tops but I can wear a medium or large in PINK shirts.

Did you catch this sale? If so, what did you get?

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KBShimmer Office Space CollectionĀ 

*Press Sample*
Are you one of those people that wear flashy polish on the weekend then hurry up and change it for work on Monday (raises hand). I’m just the type to feel like there’s a certain professionalism to your professional manicure.

I think that’s what KBShimmer had it mind with their Office Space collection. Check out the 8 shades they created in order to help you keep it classy at work.

Here’s the ones I chose, you can’t go wrong with subtle holo nails or a holo accent nail.
Fax of Life

Makin Copies (for some reason just just not swatch well for me. It’s silver in the bottle but the picture gives a white shimmering finish)

A Hint Of Manila (Took picture before I got my birthday nails).

These 3 shades and 5 more will release tomorrow on the KBShimmer website.
Which ones will you be purchasing?

Thanks for reading!!